Karthik and Kavya, a couple living in the outskirts of the city, have been married for 4 years. Kavya is an entrepreneur and Karthik works in a well-known organization as a team lead.
Waking Kavya up at 10 a.m with a warm cup of her favorite coffee is Karthik’s ideal Sunday morning routine. While she is sipping on her coffee, he plays their favorite song and starts the day. Seems perfect right?
One day, Kavya got a phone call from her aunt inviting her for a house warming function. Kavya, being a people person, would never miss an opportunity to get together with her friends and family.
Kavya and Karthik dressed up and went to the event as they normally do. Everything was going well until her aunt subtly asked the couple whether they were planning to visit a fertility specialist.
Kavya remained quiet and her smiling face became expressionless. Karthik on the other hand said, “Aunty, but isn't this function about the house you have built and not about us having a baby?” Kavya’s aunt got offended and went inside.
This is not the first time someone has asked her this question. But since it was her aunt who asked her this question, Kavya questioned her capabilities and if she is even worthy.
From that very day, a person who loves getting together with her family never responded to any invites fearing this question: “When are you going to have a baby?”
A couple battling infertility or a couple who are still doubting whether or not they are going to have kids are often bombarded with many personal questions leaving them with so much self-doubts.
Although most of this advice may come out of love and concern, it is still not okay to ask these kinds of questions to anyone.
We may have that one relative or friend who asks questions that are too personal. But do we also realize that it is important for us to educate our mothers, fathers and other family members to never ask these kinds of personal questions to anyone.
I totally agree that our parents or aunts and uncles do not have an understanding about setting boundaries and being invasive. But, we can talk to them and let them know how it makes you feel. If you are reading this, I strongly urge you to never ask such questions to anyone. There are so many nice things to discuss at a gathering, and talking about someone's choice regarding having a baby isn't one of them.
Dr.Deepthi Jammi
Karthik and Kavya, a couple living in the outskirts of the city, have been married for 4 years. Kavya is an entrepreneur and Karthik works in a well-known organization as a team lead.
Waking Kavya up at 10 a.m with a warm cup of her favorite coffee is Karthik’s ideal Sunday morning routine. While she is sipping on her coffee, he plays their favorite song and starts the day. Seems perfect right?
One day, Kavya got a phone call from her aunt inviting her for a house warming function. Kavya, being a people person, would never miss an opportunity to get together with her friends and family.
Kavya and Karthik dressed up and went to the event as they normally do. Everything was going well until her aunt subtly asked the couple whether they were planning to visit a fertility specialist.
Kavya remained quiet and her smiling face became expressionless. Karthik on the other hand said, “Aunty, but isn't this function about the house you have built and not about us having a baby?” Kavya’s aunt got offended and went inside.
This is not the first time someone has asked her this question. But since it was her aunt who asked her this question, Kavya questioned her capabilities and if she is even worthy.
From that very day, a person who loves getting together with her family never responded to any invites fearing this question: “When are you going to have a baby?”
A couple battling infertility or a couple who are still doubting whether or not they are going to have kids are often bombarded with many personal questions leaving them with so much self-doubts.
Although most of this advice may come out of love and concern, it is still not okay to ask these kinds of questions to anyone.
We may have that one relative or friend who asks questions that are too personal. But do we also realize that it is important for us to educate our mothers, fathers and other family members to never ask these kinds of personal questions to anyone.
I totally agree that our parents or aunts and uncles do not have an understanding about setting boundaries and being invasive. But, we can talk to them and let them know how it makes you feel.
If you are reading this, I strongly urge you to never ask such questions to anyone. There are so many nice things to discuss at a gathering, and talking about someone's choice regarding having a baby isn't one of them.
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