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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler (1945-2024) was a specialist in empowering the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she called #Hijackals to recognize emotional abuse, verbal abuse and coercive control that they may be experiencing, to realize the patterns, and reclaim their power.

Dr. Shaler coined the term, Hijackals®, to offer a non-clinical word for those people who are constantly scavenging for power, status and control. They blame, shame, justify and deflect...and often are seen by those outside the relationship as charming, fun, thoughtful and doting. It's crazy-making!

And you are not alone, nor are you at fault for the way you are being treated by a Hiackal.

Dr. Shaler passed away on April 3, 2024. Her legacy lives on here:
WEBSITE: www.emergingempowered.com
PODCAST: saveyoursanitypodcast.com
ONLINE LEARNING: joinintoday.com


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17:34

Freeing Yourself From Toxic Relationships - A Primer

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A Gaslighting Primer - what is it, what does it sound like, how do you deal with it.

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Unpacking Childhood Emotional Neglect: What You Need To Know

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What is Meant by "Personal Power?"

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Living in Possibilities

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How to Stop Spinning in Chaos

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Is Someone Trying to Pick a Fight With You?

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Is That Passive-Aggressive Behavior?

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How to Get Unpleasant People Out of Your Head

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Competition is a Relationship Killer

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How to Talk About Difficult Things with People Who Don't Want To

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Domestic Violence Defined

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Codependency Demystified

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People Who Only Talk About Themselves (🙄sigh)

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Anxiety and Relationships: What you need to know.

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Overcoming The Impact Of A Toxic Workplace Relationship

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Women! What To Do When You Feel You're Not Enough

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Going For The Gotcha: The Big Damaging Difference Between Verifying and Validating Your Partner

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Resiliency Steps: When the rug gets pulled out from under you.

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How To Feel More Confident In Your Decision-Making

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Be Unapologetically You To Live Your Best Life & Business

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Where To Find Your Emotional Resiliency Guest: Susan Dascenzi

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Creating Safe Space

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Self-isolating with a Narcissist? You need to know this.

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Complete Communication: What's Needed When You're Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over

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How Not To Settle For Less In Life And Love - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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Why Narcissists Exploit And Laugh At Your Vulnerabilities Guest: KIM SAEED

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How hormones keep you hooked on your narcissist...

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Ass-Kickin' Advice for Step-Moms GUEST: Kathy Hammond

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Love-Bombing - Not As Desirable As It Sounds! - Relationship Advice

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