Center For Healthy Sex

This chart describes the difference between a relationship that is driven by fantasy and intensity (red line) versus one that is based in reality (green line).
The steep incline of the red trajectory indicates how quickly a love addict can get obsessed and lost in the fantasy of the relationship without taking time to get to know the other person. This is not sustainable because no one will ever fit the fantasy version of a partner we create in our heads. Therefore, the love addict inevitably loses interest in the relationship when they begin to see that person's imperfections.
The oscillating upward green trajectory represents how true intimacy is built over time. You can see that there are ups and downs (ruptures and repairs), but as you get to truly know your partner on a deep level your love grows slowly, over time. As mentioned time and again, relationships aren’t easy to maintain, but like a garden, the more work you put in to it, the more beautiful and lush it will be come🌱🪴🌷💐

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