Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Will you be joining me at my FREE LIVE WEBINAR This Thursday the 29th of August at 1:00 p.m.?????
If you have been learning about narcissistic abuse and/or childhood trauma/neglect and still feel stuck - we are going to talk about why that happens and how to begin helping your body and mind to work TOGETHER toward healing instead of feeling as if they are pulling in opposite directions!!! There's still space to join - here's the link to reserve your spot in the 2 hour webinar!! Recording available to members of the School of Transformation only - so the only cost for those who aren't members.... is your time!!!! Come join me live!!
www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148497785

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Here’s ⬇️ how my focus changed:
I had posted a video about red flags 🚩 that I sadly ignored while dating someone who I feel is high on the covert narcissist scale.

He wanted to make plans with me but I had plans with my best friend - so I told him that I couldn’t that day but we could get together the next. It was a simple, absolutely NORMAL boundary. I said no…
And even though he tried to guilt trip me and I could tell he wasn’t happy with me- I upheld the boundary

I had to pick something up from his apartment - I rang the bell (he told me when to pick it up) well - I rang that bell and was waiting for just over half an hour. He was flat out refusing to come down - we didn’t have cell phones at that time (yes I’m old 😂)

Now because I didn’t understand narcissism
In my head - I was like - he must be so sad that we can’t hang out…. What I didn’t realize was he was showing me EXACTLY how he handles his disappointment - with silent treatments and emotional punishing.

I pointed all of this out in my video and one comment really caught my attention. ‘Yes he was wrong in his behavior, but why did you stay for so long ringing the bell when you knew he was intentionally ignoring you’

At that moment I realized there are two parts to healing from emotional! Narcissistic abuse. The first part - understand THEM and what they do to cause so much emotional dysregulation in YOU!

The second part - uncovering what was going on inside of ME that allowed me to ignore red flags, give and give more when less and less was given, to strive harder to please an intentionally unappeasable person …. Yes, this was the Cptsd Recovery part that I had not been ready to dive into before - but now knew that it was the missing piece!!

I was thinking about this because today in our live zoom meeting in the School Of Transformation we are discussing BOUNDARIES!!

If this resonates and you’re ready to do the deep inner Cptsd Recovery Work - come check out our live meetings - we’re we DO the inner work TOGETHER! Here’s the link to learn more about our live zoom Mtgs - www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation

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8 months ago | [YT] | 285

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

I'm sooo excited to be able to do another FREE live workshop with you all!! I know that not everyone is able to become a member of the School of Transformation - so I am trying to provide as much free and/or affordable assistance as possible.



Membership to the SOT is only $79/month for 9-12 live meetings - but not everyone can afford that so I am once again shooting to provide one free webinar each month!



The title of this one is: Overcoming Codependency. Emotional trauma certainly creates the breeding ground for codependency - uprooting it can feel overwhelming and often we get stuck in symptom management! I'm hoping to share with you the key to overcoming this at the root cause!!! Here's the link if you would like to join: www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148292537

8 months ago | [YT] | 102

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Ok my friends- after two polls (one on this channel and one on my other cptsd recovery channel) my first FREE Webinar will be January 3, 2024 at 1:00 pm. Eastern Entitled: How to Stop Walking On Eggshells In Life Or w/ Others - if you'd like to join me live - here is the link to register:
www.micheleleenieves.com/pl/2148095108

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

We are about to start a New Year!!! And I'm excited to let you know that I will begin hosting a FREE Drop In Meeting open to not only members of The School of Transformation - but to the public as well!!!
For my first 'drop in' meeting I'm wrestling around with some topics that I feel would be helpful - I'll put up the ones' I'm contemplating - but please let me know which topic appeals MOST to you - and I'll start with the topic that gets the most votes!!!!

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Hello Thrivers!!! We all know that narcissistic abuse causes so much damage to your nervous system..... it stops you from being 'you' and you wind up getting stuck in survival mode.

And as if THAT'S not bad enough - you can LEAVE all toxic people and your nervous system can STILL feel stuck.....

One of the most powerful modalities that has helped me in breaking out of fight/flight/freeze/fawn has been somatic experiencing. In SE sessions - there's less a focus on who caused the trauma and more a focus on how that trauma is still affecting your body, your nervous system.... your personality.

SE sessions are very different from coaching or therapy sessions - there is more a focus on the body and less a focus on the story.... if you're curious to see what a somatic experiencing session looks like - one of the members of Thrivers School of Transformation gave me permission to post the abbreviated session we did together. I'd love to know what you think of it - so be sure to come back and let me know in the comments section below!!

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Hello Thrivers!! It is that time of year - I just opened the link for the 50% OFF Thrivers School of Transformation. This is a membership where we meet LIVE on zoom and we work through emotional trauma recovery TOGETHER!!! If you're curious to see if this is a good fit for you - be sure to check out the link. The offer ends either December 31st OR when maximum number of members allowed is reached - whichever comes first!!!

AND - even if you can't join our live meetings - you will see in the link that something NEW that I am starting is a FREE MONTHLY SOMATIC WORKSHOP for member and well, ANYONE that would like to join. We will be doing somatic parts work with topics like - Walking on Eggshells, Boundaries, Joy After Abuse, How To Feel SAFE in the Body, Overcoming Emotional Flashbacks and Triggers, How To Respond Vs. React, Addictions, Codependency and soooo much more - so be on the lookout for those FREE meetings as well.

www.micheleleenieves.com/offers/VLng2TZt

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Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

I recently heard a fellow somatic experiencing practitioner describe emotional flashbacks as somatic time travel. Sounds silly but...... it so resonated.

When you're having an emotional flashback - the emotions that 'wake up' are awoken from the moment they were trapped, suppressed or numbed out - so when they come 'online' you feel them from the age they originally happened.

Which is why a grown man or woman can feel like a helpless child when experiencing an emotional flashback.

They're awful to go through - which is why we tend to then isolate - the abuser may be gone but the flashbacks become what we seek to avoid and our world gets smaller and smaller.

I say this because that's exactly what happened with me. I went from being an extrovert, loving life, trying new things all the time, loving people to... someone that isolated and the main emotion that I felt ALL the time was.... fear and a deep felt sense of danger and unsafety - EVEN IF I was safe in the moment. Thank you emotional flashbacks!!

BUT - I will say - they do not have to be a life sentence - not if you're willing to do the inner work to heal them. And the inner work is uncomfortable, it can feel daunting, sometimes seems endless ..... but it is so worth the journey.

I created Thrivers School of Transformation to provide a place where you do not have to take the journey alone!!

In the month of September we will be deep diving into How To Overcome Emotional Flashbacks - here's a link to learn more about Thrivers to see if it might be a good fit for you!!
www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation

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1 year ago | [YT] | 1,027

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Years ago if you had asked me if I loved myself and if I treated myself well… I would’ve confidently said…..yes!!!



And then I learned that how WE TALK to ourselves can be just as abusive, unloving, lacking empathy and lacking compassion as the narcissist!!!



So I began listening to my inner dialogue - bringing into my conscious awareness the constant dialogue that was always taking place whether I was aware of it or not… and I was in complete SHOCK with how MEAN I was to ….. me.



I spoke to myself in ways I would NEVER speak to another soul - even someone I didn’t like.



How could I possibly heal and feel as if I was thriving if I was constantly mistreating myself even in the hidden confinement of my own mind?!?!



So I began learning how to uproot those voices - remove the faulty ‘wiring’ that ran deep, all the way down to my dna.



It wasn’t easy - the subconscious mind has all of these defense mechanisms that kick on any time you are trying to change and break free of the story it has of who you are …. So thus began what felt like a fight between me… and … me - my conscious mind Vs my subconscious mind.

It wasn’t easy - but it’s soooo necessary in order to experience lasting change.



In August we will be deep diving into this topic (it is 1 of the 5 main components of Cptsd).


If this resonates - remember that from now until the 31st of July there is a 50% SALE for those that want to join our live meetings in Thrivers!!!!

Are you ready to take your recovery journey to the next level and get the consistent tools, support, coaching and somatic modalities that are designed to help YOU get unstuck and to feel as if you are finally THRIVING instead of just surviving in life? If so - here's the link - sale ends in 11 days. www.micheleleenieves.com/offers/PaSfAJCN



#innercritic #innercriticbegone #innerpeace #innerwork #subconsciousbeliefs #narcissisticabuse #toxicfamily #innervoice #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #cptsdsupport #abuserecovery #emotionalabuse #schooloftransformation #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumahealing #selfhealing #selfhealingjourney✨

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1 year ago | [YT] | 236

Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

I put together Thrivers School of Tranformation because emotional trauma/ narcissistic abuse leaves a relational wound - it causes you to not feel safe with people, not feel able to trust, unable to show up authentically since our fight, flight, freeze, fawn responses feel like emergency brakes not allowing us to do so.



It also makes you feel alone, misunderstood and judged!!





But in Thrivers - which is made up of survivors of trauma from all over the world - you will be in a group setting with people that get it, that understand - and so we begin growing the capacity to be seen, to be authentic, to trust, and to grow and heal!!





If you want to take advantage of this sale - it will be running until July 31st.Twice a year I put up a sale in Thrivers School of Transformation that offers anyone that joins for the year to be able to do so with 50% off!!



But you may be wondering...... What exactly do we do in Thrivers???



We learn how trauma has affected our bodies - this helps us to remove the blame and the shame that often happens when our body seemingly betrays us on this journey to heal! Our mind wants to go forward but our body is stuck in the past.....



In thrivers we learn how to get our brain and our body working TOGETHER and going in the SAME direction.

We do somatic exercises to help regulate the nervous system.



Trauma, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse rewires the brain, the body, the subconscious beliefs that are ultimately running our lives. We cannot just REMOVE the toxic person.... we must also remove the malware that was left behind and is acting like a computer virus to our soul. The ONLY way to update and upgrade these pieces of us is with somatic (body) modalities.



In Thrivers we utilize 3 different somatic modalities:
Somatic Experiencing
EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique
Trauma Release Breathwork



AND we have consistent group coaching meetings so that you can get regular power coaching sessions to help you on YOUR personal, unique recovery journey.



Sooo - if you're tired of hopping from video to video or taking video courses that help but.... are not enough - come join our LIVE zoom mtgs:

www.micheleleenieves.com/offers/PaSfAJCN

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